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Compare two profiles

A single profile tells you about one person. Two profiles tell you about a relationship — which traits you share, which ones you will have to work at, and where the friction is likely to come from.

  • Take the test — it takes five to eight minutes.
  • On the results screen, choose Copy profile link.
  • Paste that link into one of the boxes above, and send the other box’s link to whoever you are comparing with.

A profile link carries only the five scores, in the address itself — for example #profile=v1.72.41.60.68.35. It contains none of your answers, and nothing about either of you is uploaded when you compare. Both profiles are read out of the address bar and compared by JavaScript in your own browser.

What the comparison shows

  • A match score across all five traits — how similar the two profiles are overall.
  • Per-trait gaps, so you can see which single trait accounts for most of the difference.
  • A shared link containing both profiles, so you can send the finished comparison to the other person.

How to read a comparison, without over-reading it

The rules from reading your scores apply twice as hard here, because comparing two noisy numbers gives you a noisier difference:

  • A gap under 10 points is not a difference. Two ten-item scales cannot resolve that finely.
  • A gap of 25 points or more is worth talking about. That is where you are likely to already have noticed something.
  • Similarity is not compatibility. Research on trait similarity and relationship satisfaction finds weak and inconsistent effects. Two identical profiles are not a match, and two very different ones are not a warning.
  • Differences are information, not a verdict. A large Conscientiousness gap predicts arguments about tidiness, not whether you should be together.

The most informative gaps

  • Conscientiousness — the most reliable source of day-to-day domestic and working friction. Whose standard for “tidy” and “on time” wins.
  • Extraversion — how much social contact a shared week needs, and which of you is exhausted by the other’s idea of a good Friday.
  • Neuroticism — how each of you reacts when something goes wrong, and whether one of you consistently reads the other as either over-worried or unbothered.
  • Openness — how you spend free time and money, and how much novelty a shared life needs.
  • Agreeableness — how conflict happens. A large gap usually means one person raises things directly and the other waits.

For what each of those traits actually measures, start with the five traits explained.

Find your own five scores

Fifty questions, five to eight minutes, no account. Your answers are scored in your browser and never uploaded.

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